It’s All About Love, But Check Your Deserve Level!

Happy San Valentin Week!

Day before yesterday, Valentine’s Day  or Dia de San Valentin (as they call it here in South Florida), was a special day for many.  I was driving to Topeekeegee Yugnee Park (The Seminole Indian name, meaning the “gathering place.”)  for a 6 miles run in Oakland Park, FL and saw 3 big flag-like sign on the street, one following the other, spaced about 15 yards apart.  A guy was expressing his love to the world.  It went something like Ron (1st flag) Loves (2nd flag) Lisa (third flag), and I thought “how creative.”   When we love, we oftentimes go out our way to express it.  Some folks do small things for their partner and others like to go out in a big way, but it all boils down to one thing:  Love.   So, it’s all good!


"The Gathering Place"

Before we get to the meet of the matter, first let me tell you a little bit about Topeekeegee YugneePark in Hollywood, Florida. Runners, bikers, roller bladders and walkers will love the two miles paved road I found there.  People of all ages were hanging out that beautiful day.  There is an enchanting lake that is smack dead in the middle where the trail circles.  The majestic oak trees lend soothing shade, especially welcoming in this warm weather, to fitness enthusiast on the trail.  There were restrooms facilities and water fountains to relieve certain needs you may have.  Topeekeegee Yugnee Park has volleyball, tennis, basketball courts, play grounds and grills.  I also found an RV park with many people hanging out doing their thing: barbecuing, walking the dog, reading book, biking.  There is a water park that was closed.  Kids and grown kids may find this place fun.  Like the name suggests, it sure is a gathering place.  A beautiful one at that.

A view of the trail. Close to fishing site.

When we love ourselves, we want to take care of ourselves in many dimensions and ways.  Too many times, even as nurses and health-care professionals, we get so busy taking care of others that we sort of  neglect ourselves and this is where we catch a snag.  If you have a plant, you will make sure you give it proper sunlight, water, and nutrients.  Oh, and you may look like a total nut or a blooming buffoon, but plants also like to be talked to.  At least my plant, Broomhilda, grew wild all over my porch when I started talking to her.  Find time to take care of yourself.

Some say we exist because of Love.  Love seems to be the ultimate reason why many things exists, are created, and flourish.  If you love what you do, you wake up enthusiastic and eager to do that thing.  When you love someone you enjoy their company and can’t wait to see them again.  There are many things we do for ourselves because we love ourselves, but there are other things we don’t do for ourselves because, like someone once said to me, we haven’t checked our “Deserve Level.”

Fishing for your health... At Topeekeegee Yugnee Park.

You deserve love.  You deserve to be healthy.  You deserve to loose weight.  You deserve to look amazing.  If you are overweight or obese, you are amazing and you look amazing, but you just don’t know it yet.  When you accept these simple fact, you can start doing little things that will help steer you towards health.  Yes, the little things you do for love can make a big difference. Don’t get on a diet.  Learn and practice healthy eating habits instead.  If you don’t have the heart to rid your kitchen of all those weapons of mass destruction at once, do it little by little.  Decide today you will not put even a swig of soda in your mouth for 1, 2, or 3 months.  Instead, drink water.  This is showing your body with love.  Decide today that you will take a 30 minutes break from sitting in front of the TV after you eat and walk instead.  You can also take a whopping FOUR (4) minutes break and do some of Dr. Tabata high intensity interval training (HIIT) exercises that will have you burning calories up to 48 hours.  Amazing ain’t  it?  You can decided that you will skip the late night show for one month and go to bed early to get you 8 hours of sleep a night. You can decide that you are tired of feeling short of breath, energy depleted, and funky, get on a lifestyle changing program and love yourself even more.

Cooling shade

OYE!  A deserve level is a psychological level with a floor and a ceiling we unknowingly set for ourselves.  Just this week I had a potential client tell me he cannot help himself because his eating habits is “emotional.”  He want’s to loose weight, feel good, and look good, but he has to feed this “emotional” entity, then he added, “I’ve always been this way and don’t’ know if I can change.”   What I was hearing was “I DON’T DESERVE IT.”  To contrast, another client of mine was tired of feeling short of breath walking from her kitchen to her living room and she decided she deserved to breath with ease and decided to get her some help.  Once you have checked your deserve level, use this gauge to accomplish whatever you will.  You deserve to be well, healthy, happy and more.  After all, it’s all about love.  So love you.  Do you right.  In doing so you are helping yourself, setting a good example for your profession, clients, family, and the world.